Yes.... hermitism is a word!
By definition it is the practice of retiring from society and living in solitude, based upon a variety of motives.Also called hermitry,hermitship. — hermitic, hermitical, adj. I can totally relate to why people want to be hermits.
As a very social person many people would find it hard to believe I enjoy the life of a hermit. I love interacting with people and need that in my life, yet in my personal time I prefer books and quiet. By definition I am not a hermit....however I view myself as a semi-hermit for sheer preservation of my spirit!
I've found that living in a small community where the stores close at 5pm and most everything is closed on Sunday has forced me to slow down. I'm a busy person by nature. I'm usually still canning or cleaning at 9pm BUT that involves my immediate family or just myself and I'm okay with that. Being a hermit doesn't mean you're lazy it means you have the quiet time to think.
I become agitated when reading or watching the news. My mind goes a mile a minute on the state of world affairs. When one feels helpless to do anything on a grander scale it can cause one to become depressed. To come to terms with this, I follow the advice of Theodore Roosevelt: "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."
I'm certainly not saying we shouldn't do things for others in different parts of the world if we can. All of us need a helping hand at times. However because social media swamps me with endless pictures and stories of suffering I find it overwhelming. I have learned to focus and become more effective by focusing the majority of my energy on what is present around me.
Living in "the sticks" I have learned many lessons over the past year and half. Our family saves money. Yup.....when it's over an hour drive to prime shopping locations, you ask yourself, do I really NEED what I want to purchase. When you factor in the time and the gas money to go get the item, you THINK about your purchase. It's standard marketing. If you are a salesperson you know that if you don't close a sale at the time you are speaking with a person, you probably won't. People go home, think about it and don't come back. Big Box Stores don't have salespeople but they certainly use flashy packaging and bright yellow signs to try and grab your attention to complete the sale. No impulse buying going on here!
You also find that you are not invited to every party put on by mere acquaintances. When your group of friends are small you enjoy going to bridal showers and BBQ's. My youngest seemed to be the star kid to invite to parties, which if there are 20 kids in a classroom and you need to buy a present worth at least $20 per party.....the cost adds up. It's not just the cost either, it's the quiet time away from the constant hustle and bustle and becoming frantic to find gifts just so you can bring SOMETHING. More intimate parties allow you to have time to make or find the perfect gift that comes from the heart without feeling resentful from a sense of obligation.
Comfy clothes.....oh yes....by being more of a hermit one can spend very little on clothes and make up. I love getting dolled up like any other girl but most days I prefer clothes where if they get dirty in the garden it's no big deal. When I worked in an office I had to have two different wardrobes. The weekend wardrobe to have fun in and then the expensive uncomfortable office attire. Interesting thing was that I didn't notice how uncomfortable I was until I stopped doing it. If I never have to wear spiked heels, sagging nylons, spanx or inhale a face full of hairspray ever again, I'll gladly suffer in my bluejeans and soft cotton t shirt with the hole in it. Getting dressed up now is special and gives me pleasure to do so when the opportunity arises.
When you become a semi-hermit or remove yourself from the constant do-ing. We tend to glorify being busy. Being productive is important but knowing that the constant rush of driving from one place to the next truly does keep us from quality time with those we love.
Being a hermit allows you to slow down and notice the small things that go on around you. Stress levels go down (unless you live for the bar scene and constant flashing of lights and the sounds of traffic) and your save money in other ways so your bank account goes up! The money we save will allow us to travel and pursue a fun adventure in the depths of winter together. I'm looking forward to it.